The seven types of guests at a griha pravesam

10 Jun

So, the parents held the griha pravesam ceremony for their house last Sunday. There were some glitches, and there were some beautiful moments, too. Overall, the ceremony went off well.

In the gyaan that comes after having organised and executed an event, I present to you the seven types of guests that we noticed at the griha pravesam.

1. The happy-to-be-there type

These guests are really, genuinely happy to be there at the ceremony. They appreciate the efforts you put in into searching for a suitable house for several long months. They recognise the hard work you have done, the number of discussions you have had with the builder, to bring the house to a ready-to-occupy, liveable state. They do understand that the house is not a mansion in France, but that it was the best you could do within your budget and circumstances. Such guests are a real pleasure to have around at an event.

2. The stomach-burning type

These guests have a fire burning in their belly – not the good type of fire, mind you. They make comments like ‘So, this house will go to your daughter.. she now has two houses – this one and her own. Her husband is SO lucky!’ They are almost in tears to see that you have finally found the house that you were looking for since long, and that you succeeded in buying it and getting it registered. They are pains in the you-know-where, but situations are such that they have to be invited.

3. The pandal-to-packing-up type

These guests are your real friends, those who really care about you. They stand by your side, getting the pandal erected with you, sweeping floors, dusting windows and urging construction workers to speed up with the furniture polish. They are by your side till the pooja is over, all the other guests have left, and all your belongings are carefully packed and loaded up to head back home. They don’t mind getting their hands dirty, for your sake. Gems of people, I say.

4. The eat-and-go type

These guests come to the ceremony because you have invited them. They eat because you have requested them to stay for lunch. They just show up at the appointed time, and leave at a time that is decent. Enough said.

5. The complaint-box type

These guests make statements like ‘The house is good, but….my daughter’s is better.’ It is actually amazing to see how many faults these people can find with the house, the location, the ceremony, the food, the people – just about anything – in half an hour’s time! Phew!

6. The social-networking type

These guests consider your housewarming ceremony as yet another opportunity to network socially. They are ready with pen and paper, or mobile phone, as the case may be, to note down names and addresses and phone numbers so that they can build their network of friends. They are the people who can be found in corners before, after and during the pooja, busy discussing what happened to that aunty’s son’s friend’s friend. They have to have the latest on everyone, you know?

7. The no-show type

These guests keep assuring you that will be a part of the ceremony without fail, whenever you e-mail, call or talk to them. They give you no reason to believe that they won’t be coming, but they are no-shows. No phone calls, no messages, no mails of warning. You later learn that they weren’t planning to come all along, as you wonder what to do with the plates of food that you have left over, thanks to them.

Have you met any of these characters?

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23 Responses to “The seven types of guests at a griha pravesam”

  1. R's Mom June 10, 2014 at 8:09 am #

    CONGRATS!!! you did it you did it yayayay :)

    And the guests…..sigh! yes they are they are :(

  2. sudhagee June 10, 2014 at 8:10 am #

    Umm… you forgot one more type of guest. The ones who will read the blog post and send congratulations and best wishes for the grihapravesham. :)

    Very happy to know that your parents have found the right place for themselves.

  3. Arch June 10, 2014 at 8:34 am #

    Superb! Met all the kinds, in the recent gruhapravesha we had! :D

  4. Bikramjit June 10, 2014 at 9:14 am #

    yes there is one more type .. the ones those who just wont go.. the ceremony is finished, food is done , packing is done and they still cling on .. you have plenty of work to do but cant because this lot wont go :) and they wont help either..

    Congrats TGND and please extend my regards to parents ..

    • The Girl Next Door June 10, 2014 at 9:22 am #


      Thankfully, we didn’t have such guests this time around.

      Thank you so much, Bikram! :)

  5. ashreyamom June 10, 2014 at 9:17 am #

    to be frank for most of the functions i am the eat and go type as i cant or dont know what to how to talk and interact with others. ;).. waiting for the pics.

    • The Girl Next Door June 10, 2014 at 9:21 am #


      That’s okay – unless you are close to the hosts. :)

      Pics – will try to upload soon.

  6. Aarthy June 10, 2014 at 10:04 am #

    Oh yes I sure have met all these types!! And I think type 1 is the rarest. They are nice enough to be good to the world at large even though they may not be a particularly close friend or relative. That shows real goodness in character and mind.
    Sadly they are very rare and the world is more filled with type 2. I can only pity them for they can never be happy in life and are disliked by everyone.
    That was a very lively post TGND. And congratulations on the new house!!! Ahem .. I am type 1 you see though I do not like to boast about it ;-)

  7. Sangitha June 10, 2014 at 3:36 pm #

    I think I have been several of these types of guest, depending on the relationship.

    Congratulations to your parents on their new home! Wish them many happy years there!

    • Sangitha June 10, 2014 at 3:37 pm #

      *guests*. Specifically 1, 3, 4 and 7.

      • The Girl Next Door June 11, 2014 at 4:01 am #


        I think we all have been, at one point or the other, depending on our relationship with the host. I try not to fall under the No. 7 category, though.

        Thank you so much! :)

  8. Madhu June 10, 2014 at 5:19 pm #

    The reason I kept mine private, just family and very close friends :-) Wishing the parents much happiness in their new home.

  9. HappyFeet June 11, 2014 at 3:57 am #

    haha! Wonder which category I would have fallen into :)
    And hey, I hope you did get my message on Fri.
    Congrats again on finally making it! Having moved into a new place myself and having seen the Hero work his ass off for this place, I know how hard the months and thus, how satisfying the day of grih-pravesh can be!

    • The Girl Next Door June 11, 2014 at 4:00 am #

      @Happy Feet

      He he.. I am sure you would have been the first type. :)

      Thank you so much for the best wishes.

      No, I didn’t get your message. :(

  10. greenboochi June 11, 2014 at 8:34 am #

    Every single type! And there are also people who come to a function so that they can dig your life as much as possible – I hate them, seriously.

  11. kismitoffeebar June 12, 2014 at 6:25 am #

    I know you have been really putting in so much effort towards, so reading this post made me super happy TGND :) Hope your parentsh ave lots of good times in their new home :)

    Ha ha, all those types are very much there in every event! While it does get on your nerves (esp. 5 coz’ I dislike negativity during a happy event), I try to associate myself lesser and lesser.

    Super happy for you though :)

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