Is it just me…

… who thinks that eating at lunches and dinners in most South Indian weddings is like running a marathon?

Sit in a long row of guests, be served 20 varieties of food by an army of serving people in under 5 minutes, start eating your sambar rice to find that the rasam rice has already arrived,Β  refuse the sambar rice, just about finish eating your rasam rice and tasting the various curries and salads and raitas to find that the curd rice has arrived, just begin to eat your curd rice to find that the people around you have finished eating everything on their banana leaves and are staring at you, and that the cleaning women have arrived to clear the tables for the next batch of people. You realise the women are giving you dirty looks, and that you have to get up if you don’t want to get murdered. Then, you realise you have barely had time to eat the various sweet dishes that you had kept aside for later.

That’s me, quite a slow eater, who believes in relishing her meals. Clearly, South Indian wedding food is not my banana leaf of food. Much to the amusement of my family and friends, I am almost always hungry about an hour or so after eating at a wedding.

I don’t want to eat for hours together, you see? I just want to not have to gobble up my food without tasting it. I want to taste everything properly and determine my favourite dishes, not just ensure that everything served goes at least once past my gullet, into my tummy. I want to do justice to the huge costs of throwing such a lunch or dinner party, to do justice to the efforts of all the cooks involved. Phew!


20 thoughts on “Is it just me…

  1. Haha, I’ve never been to a South Indian wedding, but if I did I would certainly be in the same predicament as you. Give me the North Indian buffet style wedding feasts any day.


  2. Count me in too TGND. However, I have seen on more than one occasion, this idea of keeping a donnai (the dried leaf cup) or a small plate in the side for the sweets and vadai that you might want to take back for consuming later. You can just pick and place in that and take it with you. I think that works better.
    The other major issue that annoys me at most wedding’s is when they royally place a sweet/sabji/gravy on the leaf without asking. As it is I find myself feeling full by just looking at the massive quantities of food being placed in under 3-4 minutes, and adding to that is when they dump yet another vegetable or kootu kind before you can react!


    1. @Monkey Mind

      I have started doing the donnai thing lately, too. πŸ™‚ It helps!

      About the second issue you state, I am constantly on the lookout for any servers, so that they do not dump on my plate anything I don’t want or can’t eat. So much so that I forget to keep eating constantly. πŸ˜›


      1. It is just so much better with that option, na? These days, we offer it at home too. To pack the dessert if the guests like πŸ™‚

        LOL! That’s funny. Paavam you! πŸ˜›


  3. Having been at bro’s wedding not more than two weeks ago, I can totally understand you πŸ™‚ I tasted every item on my leaf and enjoyed every bit of it. Luckily in my case, we being the groom’s sisters and always were dining with the newly wedded couple, we were given extra time and shown additional love in the form of more food πŸ˜†

    Otherwise, I have seen that happen quite a bit in many weddings. I would have to make place for more rice, if I want it and then before I finish everything the cleaning ladies would be waiting for me. Sigh.


      1. Well…I believe these days we have the paper sheets covering the table and we have to vacate 😦 Earlier when no such extra accessories adorned the tables I used to intently stare back at the ladies picking up the banana leaves. They would leave me in peace to finish of in my own pace!


  4. Area, please let us eat together. I don’t feel hungry always coz the sight of the food sometimes fills me up but I really want to savour my food and that is too much to ask I suppose! Some of my uncles slow down the pace by talking to the head cook sometimes. Lol.


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