I’m back….

…. to Bangalore and on my blog after a fantabulous vacation in Ahmedabad.

I think I will be doing a series of posts on my trip to Ahmedabad gradually, but for now, here are the salient features of this vacation in bullet points.

~ As you people already know, this was my first real vacation without the OH. Usually, the OH takes care of the planning and execution of all our trips, and I just help a bit with the research. This entire trip was funded, planned and executed by me, and that gave me a great high. It was more than a trip home – it was an attempt to explore how I fare on my own, and an attempt to explore a city that has been home, but which has never really been explored. I realised that I am not all that bad at planning and execution.

~ I did miss the OH a lot, but that did not stop me from having super fun on this trip. I managed to see some of the most important landmarks of Ahmedabad, which I had never seen before. I realised that Ahmedabad has changed in a lot of ways. Parts of the city are still the same – old and dusty but full of history – and parts of it are new, throbbing with excitement and newness. The city is FAST developing, with SG Highway boasting of some of the best eatery chains that are present in other major cities of India, and the Sabarmati riverfront project and all.

~ Ahmedabad has a lot more to offer than I have seen yet, and I don’t know if I will get a chance to do that anytime again. I would love to, though. There are loads of places that I would love to visit around Ahmedabad as well.

~ Ahmedabad is paradise for food and clothes lovers. I managed to eat some wonderful food out of the house and buy some lovely clothes, without burning a hole in my purse. I don’t know why these two aspects of the city are not promoted in the Gujarat Tourism advertisements! They should be!

~ My parents have sold off their house. A neighbour expressed interest in buying it, and a deal was struck. They will be vacating the place pretty soon, once the registration and other details are taken care of, and shifting to Bangalore. This makes me both happy and sad. This is what I had been wanting all along – for my parents to settle down somewhere near me, so that I could visit them often. It bothers me, though, that ‘home’ will never be ‘home’ for me again. I probably will not even be visiting the city again. In fact, the prospective buyers visited me while I was there, and were discussing their plans to pull down walls and cover balconies and, in short, customise the house to their tastes. They are very enthusiastic and happy about settling into our house, and it gives me peace to know that it will be well cared for, but it pains me to know that it will never look the same again. Well, such is life. If I were a millionaire, I would have bought the house myself, but that is a distant dream. (Smitha, this is what I was telling you about the grass always being greener on the other side.)

~ The trip gave me cartloads of time to introspect about my life and things that have been making me happy and stressing me out of late. It made me think a lot of my direction in life, what I want to do next. I don’t have a clear path ahead of me yet, but I do know the baby steps that I want to take now.

~ This trip showed me and my parents that I have changed. I cooked for them on a couple of days, something I have never done before on a holiday home. I handled the kitchen entirely for a few days, and let my parents relax, sit back and enjoy the meal. I packed my bags three whole days in advance before I was to leave. My parents were stunned. This convinced them – and me – that I can be super lazy or super efficient as I want to. πŸ˜›

~ My time in Ahmedabad brought back many fond memories, and many demons from the past as well. It set me thinking again, and thankfully, I realised I have largely been able to make my peace with my demons and be gratified for the good things in life.

~ I realised, yet again, how different the OH is from typical Indian husbands. This trip made me relive the reasons for marrying him in the first place, and made me thankful for having him in my life.

~ I realised that life in a smallish city has its own charms. I was able to run a lot of errands within a few hours and reach home still fresh at the end of it. I realised I could reach anywhere in Ahmedabad within 20-25 minutes, within 30 minutes at the maximum, which is quite unlike Bangalore. I was totally at the mercy of auto rickshaw drivers there, who are, still, largely dependable. In fact, they seemed fit to worship after having experienced the auto rickshaw drivers in Bangalore.

~I managed to meet up with a couple of old friends, and it was fun. It was just like the old times. There were no gaps, no awkward pauses, no stares. We just seemed to pick up where we had left off about 3 years back. That felt great.

~ The trip was fraught with emotions, as a trip home is always – rather, as what is probably the last trip to a place that you called home is bound to be. My stomach is still churning with a variety of emotions. It was a chore cooking the dinner yesterday after being back in the afternoon, getting up early in the morning today and getting back to work. Hopefully, the routine of everyday life will set me right soon.

~ I managed to carry back an assortment of spices and powders and chutneys that Amma graciously dumped my bag with. I had to leave some of the stuff that she had packed untouched, too, thanks to the weight limitations on the airlines. There were loads of things – big and small – that I would have loved to bring back from Ahmedabad, but couldn’t. That reminded me of a friend’s Facebook status long ago: ‘Wish home weighed 20 kg.’ Sadly, it doesn’t.

Well, that is that for now. I hope to be back soon with the rest of the posts in the series.

How have you been doing, people? What’s up? I am all ears!

47 thoughts on “I’m back….

  1. I know that feeling…my parents shifted home after i got married and 1st time i returned it felt so different. i didn’t know which thing was where and it didn’t feel like home initially…
    Good thing is that your parents will be with you and all of you can spend a lot of time together…
    I agree about the food and cloths in Ahmedabad. I always wait for my annual visits to buy cloths and my love for Ahmedabad food is well known (people coming from there brings food for me!!!)


    1. @Techie2mom

      I still buy certain things only from Ahmedabad, so I know exactly what you mean. πŸ™‚ I have to think of an alternative to that after my parents shift to Bangalore.

      And, yes, it is great that my parents will be shifting here soon. That is what keeps me going.


  2. seems like I’ve been away for long long time..had no clue about your Ahd trip…lot to catch up πŸ™‚

    I can understand the feeling loosing the place called ‘home’ and maybe never visiting the city you are so attached to …has happened to me too few years back and at time I yearn to go back in time and live my life again πŸ™‚

    but on the positive side, parents settling down in B’lore is a good news, so YAY to that πŸ™‚


  3. Hugs, TGND!

    I can relate to so many parts of your post.. Esp this, ‘ It bothers me, though, that β€˜home’ will never be β€˜home’ for me again. I probably will not even be visiting the city again’. I felt like this when my parents moved away from the town that I grew up in.. I felt sad that I wouldn’t be able to take daughter to all those places which defined my childhood.
    But having your parents near you is such a luxury! You will love it, and of course, be at peace that you could visit them, check on them whenever you want to. I wish my parents were here..

    As for grass being greener on the other side – tell me about it πŸ™‚


  4. Hope you have settled back to the routine. Glad to know that your parents will soon be moving closer to you. Can understand your feelings about leaving a city, letting go of the place that was home to you for so many years..I still have the fondest memories of the house and the locality I grew up in. But you know what, those memories really really keep me going. I feel so positive and happy whenever I take a trip down the memory lane every now and then. So, TGND, dont be low for you have your memories too to charge you up and cheer you up!

    Good luck to your parents on the move and best wishes to you and OH too πŸ™‚


  5. Its nice to know that your parents will be shifting closer to you,but then a childhood home always has memories that are inseparable. I still get dreams where I am in the first rented house we lived in….

    It is so good to read that you shopped,ate,met friends and even gave your parents a break from their daily chores,lovely post TGND πŸ™‚


  6. oh.. i can understand the feeling re.. especially selling the house which is attached with so many memories..
    throughout the post i understood two things, u had fun and missed OH.. πŸ™‚


  7. And whoa! Look at all those updates.
    “I managed to meet up with a couple of old friends, and it was fun. It was just like the old times. There were no gaps, no awkward pauses, no stares. We just seemed to pick up where we had left off about 3 years back. That felt great.” – That’s just so true!
    I want ot say so much – ah, I know what to do! πŸ™‚



    So so so so happy to have you back πŸ™‚
    This post made me so emotional, really. I am so happy that your parents are coming to the same city. Honestly TGND with the OH and your parents in the same city, I think you have the best things in the world πŸ™‚ And I really mean it.
    Also, I understand how much you would miss your home in Ahmedabad. It is such a nostalgic feeling to even think of the living room, the bed room, that special corner, that study table, that dressing mirror…. but if it means that it will be well cared for and that your parents are not moving anywhere else but to your city is a big consolation. Even if the lump in your throat doesn’t get smaller, it sure is a little bit easier to swallow…..
    Yay! TGND is back πŸ™‚


  9. Emotional and dil se. I still remember the house i was brought up in. A rented place which I knew deep down we would leave someday but still think of visiting it so many times.

    Good part- your parents are coming so close to you and it is the best thing that can happen.


  10. We recently sold off our house in Delhi and moved to a bigger house. There were so many memories attached to that house – good and bad – that it was like seperating from a part of the family. I still can’t think of anyone else living in it. I drive past it at times and I wish to go back and talk to the walls. πŸ™‚
    Now I am getting all sentimental.
    But I am glad that your parents are moving close to you. You will find peace in that, believe me.


  11. Traveling by yourself is a way to boost your confidence. It sounds like you had a wonderful trip. The spices you brought back will flavor your dishes with a bit of home. One of the great things about travel is making small but sometimes significant changes when you return.


  12. Great that u had a good time, TGND! I guess it was very bittersweet. But u are lucky to now have ur parents living close by. I guess that makes up for a lot else!


  13. A very lovely post, TGND! I can very well understand the emotions behind letting go a house that you grew up in. I am very close to my maternal grandparents and when my grandfather passed away, the elders decided to sell the house and have my grandma move in with us. Although I wanted my grandma to move in with us, I was heartbroken to see the house that housed my grandpa’s memories being sold off. I was all of 12 years, yet tried to convince the adults not to sell the house. But, for all practical reasons, I had to let go 😦 It still pains to see the house whenever I pass by it…so *hugs*…I can understand you…
    Happy for you that you can be near your parents now. That’s definitely worth cheering about πŸ™‚


  14. So you had a nice break πŸ™‚
    I can understand your feelings about the hose being sold, specially as you have stayed there for so long… Cheer up, the positive thing is that your parents will be closer to you soon πŸ™‚
    Waiting to read more updates from your trip πŸ™‚


  15. So the trip was a mixed bag..some good, some sad..dont worry TGND, all is for good πŸ™‚

    The prospect of selling our house will loom over me after a few years and maybe I will be in your shoes then 😦 Until then, you are most welcome to stay at my place πŸ™‚

    Did you shop something at Dhalgarhwad?


      1. The first time I wrote an email to you, I mentioned that πŸ™‚

        Its a ritual for me to go to Dhalgarwad, just love shopping from that area.


  16. Wah! Kya comeback post hai (I refuse to read the other post you did due to lack of time ;))

    But this one is awesome..

    I can so totally understand the house being sold thing 😦 I faced that a couple of years ago when Amma Appa sold off the house, the only house I grew up (and add all the other nautanki!) Gah!

    Great to have you back and now start the series will ya?


  17. Wow! that was a real exciting curtain raiser on your Ahmedabad trip πŸ™‚
    Welcome back TGND so good to have you back with so much news about a city I too love πŸ˜€
    SG highway and it’s eateries….WOW! Did you go to Law garden? had some Pani puri or not??
    So glad that at least your parent’s have finalized the deal of their house for which they’d been worrying from a while πŸ™‚

    Eagerly waiting for more updates πŸ˜€ πŸ˜€


    1. @My Era

      Thank you, ME! πŸ™‚ You’ll find some more updates in the post before this! πŸ™‚

      Yes, I did go to Law Garden a couple of times. I didn’t have any pani poori there, can you believe it? 😦 I did manage to eat a lot of other delicious foodstuff, though. πŸ™‚


  18. TNGD…. this post left me with a variety of emotions too. I am happy as well, for your parents to be settling in Bangalore, close to you. But I fully understand how you must be feeling about your home and that too when the people buying it are talking of remodeling it. I have had similar experience with my grandparents’ place and it still brings me tears. The house that I used to play, run, jump, sit and have fun now belongs to someone else. I was in 10th std when my grandparents had to move out of their village and in 12th std, the house was sold. I then thought, if I had 80K – I would have never let anyone else buy it (it was such a big house and yet they sold it for such a cheap price) But such is life 😦 I know, having your parents with you is more important than having the house itself, you just need some time to accept it and I am sure you will come to peace with it soon.

    I have heard a lot abt Ahmedabad from S who had his on-job training there. He got me a salwar material from there and its still very close to my heart πŸ™‚ With your lovely pictures in the last post and your words in this post, I am drawn towards Ahm totally! πŸ™‚ I really hope I get to visit it sometime.


    1. @Greenboochi

      True – such is life. And life does go on. I am sure I will soon make my peace with the fact that I will no longer have a home in Ahmedabad, too.

      Ahmedabad is a lovely place to live in, or even to visit for a few days. Hope you get to visit it sometime soon, too. πŸ™‚


  19. Lovely sentimental post! I know visiting a place you call home for the last time is very emotional experience. Great you enjoyed your time there and now that your parents are moving close to you, here’s to new beginnings. Best wishes.


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