I had Lisa See’s Snow Flower And The Secret Fan lying on my bookshelf for over a year. I picked it up often and browsed through the first few pages several times, but couldn’t continue reading because every single time, I got depressed and had to put the book away. Finally, last week, I gathered the courage to plod on and read beyond the first few pages, and I did finish the book!
If I had to describe this book in one word, I would say it is ‘fascinating’. Set in 19th century China, the book is narrated by a woman, Lily, who is in her eighties. Lily tells the tale of how, having been born into a poor family of farmers in a drought-ridden village in China, she was destined to marry into another average family and lead an average life. However, fate has something else in store for her. When Lily is seven, the local diviner discovers that her feet have the potential to turn into one of the prettiest in the county when she finishes her ‘foot binding‘, and that she could marry into a rich family in neighbouring Tongkou. This would change Lily’s and her family’s fate for ever, considering the high bride price that she would fetch.
‘Foot binding’ is a tradition that most Chinese girls had to follow in those times when they were six or seven years of age, ‘the custom of binding the feet of young girls painfully tight to prevent further growth’ (quote from Wikipedia). Foot binding would ensure that the feet of these girls turned out tiny (as small as seven centimetres!!) which, in turn, would enable them to marry into good households, for tiny, perfectly-bound feet called ‘golden lilies’ were a major criteria while choosing a girl for marriage. Of course, the process involves a lot of broken bones and is extremely painful.
Lily’s feet also make her eligible for a ‘laotong‘ relationship, a special bond between two girls that would last their entire lives and enable them to share their deepest emotions with each other, something which could not be said of a marriage. Marriages were highly formal arrangements in those days, and a wife was little more than a caretaker for her husband’s family. A wife had no right to ask questions of her husband, or share her feelings with him – all she was expected to do, and was accepted by women as well, was to follow her husband wherever he went and do as he said. At the age of six or seven, Chinese girls used to know the harsh truth of the marriages that they would have to enter into – and in these circumstances, the suggestion of a ‘laotong’ match, of getting a friend with whom she could share everything, excited Lily to no end. Not that girls could get too excited in those days, for it was improper conduct for them.
Lily enters into a ‘laotong’ match with a girl called Snow Flower from Tongkou, and the two start sharing confidences through a fan, in ‘nu shu‘, a secret language that was used for communication by the women of those times, something that no man was privy to. The secret language was, sort of, the only way in which the women of those days rebelled against their circumstances. Lily and Snow Flower’s relationship continues for long years and through many stages of their lives, till a misunderstanding threatens to end it all.
This was my first attempt at reading historical fiction, and I was enchanted by it. It gave me a glimpse into the traditions of a country that is not very different from my own, into intriguing customs like nu shu, writing on fans, foot binding and laotong relationships. It made for a wonderful read. As I said, the book did depress me a lot of times – it made me feel for all that those women had to suffer and silently bear in those times. It is painful to read about how women were considered so utterly worthless that their fathers, brothers and husbands would not worry if one of them died – after all, she was just one more mouth to feed! That said, I found the book inspiring, too, in the sense that I saw the women trying to be the strongest that they can in their circumstances – sometimes a great thing in itself.
The book is not slow – events unfold in Lily and Snow Flower’s lives one after the other – but there is actually not much happening, if you get what I mean. I had to constantly remind myself that the book is set in the 19th century and that many things that we now take for granted were probably a big deal then.
The book made me feel glad for having been born in a different time, for having been born as me, and for having a life of my own, however flawed it might look at some times.
Reading Snow Flower And The Secret Fan has been a very different experience – the book is quite different from what I have read so far. It is an enlightening book about an era that is very different from the one we live in today yet, in some ways, is not so very much different. I would recommend this book to one and all.
21 thoughts on “Snow Flower And The Secret Fan”
sounds interesting, especially for the knowledge that one gains about the history mentioned…foot binding ? some traditions are just non justifiable, no?
You should read this sometime.. will give you a glimpse into a culture that is very much like ours, yet so different.
lovely post dear, first time here..enjoyed reading your exp. reminded me of a very old tv seriel “Osheen”
Thank you! And welcome to my blog!
I remember seeing Osheen when I was in school. 🙂
It sounds extremely interesting. I think this is going to be my next purchase. 🙂
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Hope you enjoy the book, too!
Sounds really fascinating. Have you read Memoirs of a Geisha? I love such books because they have a world so different from ours. Added to my long wishlist.
This book is fascinating. Hope you like it, too. 🙂
Yes, I read Memoirs of a Geisha, and loved it, too. 🙂 Their world is so very different from ours, no?
Excellent review! I read this as well, and found many aspects of it fascinating. The foot-binding was difficult to read about, and quite memorable.
Thank you! 🙂
This book is difficult to read, but an experience worth having all right.
I have this book on my shelf..it’s been there for over a year, yet to take it up. I have read another book by the author – Peony in love, I think. That book was entertaining/different/nice in parts, but boring in others. It introduced the concept of foot binding to me and after all the research I did on that topic pained me. I’ll have to start reading this one soon…hopefully.
I have Peony In Love lying on my bookshelf too, for quite some time now. Yet to read it.
Yes, reading about these painful customs can be a bit disturbing at times.
Hope you like this book better. 🙂
I so want to read this! Have ordered it. Am sure I will love it – I love historicals and this just beckons to me.
I hope you enjoy it as much as I did. 🙂
Errr….you think it will leave me sad??
Inspired by you and Smitha I started reading Jodi Picoult..trust me every book makes me so sad and yet today I have got the Songs of the Humpback Whale issued from the library..gah! your reviews make me want to read the books
As I said to GB, this is as inspiring a tale as it is depressing. It is a beautiful story, very different from the usual run-of-the-mill stuff, and definitely deserves a reading.
Do let me know your experience reading Songs of the Humpback Whale.
Your review of this book had this magic spell on me TNGD. I didnt even blink inbetween. Loved reading about your reading experience 🙂 I am not too sure if I will pick up this book, I need to have that courage of reading through the depressing parts. When I have it, I will get this book 🙂
Thank you, GB! 🙂
I think the book is as inspiring as it is depressing, GB. You should definitely read it sometime. If not anything else, it will make you feel glad for being you and leading the life that you do.
Loved reading your experience!
A few months back, I used to see big posters of this movie in the cinemas but K and i never could watch it. And then, I felt happy knowing of the book and it is on my to-read list now.
I have read of nu-shu earlier as well and find it fascinating and relieving that there was some form of communication and sharing of sentiments happening. it is extremely interesting to read how women had an opinion on everything right from war to household events and shared them but could not do so openly!
I will read this book. Oh that reminds me, I must email you of some more books set in China and promise to be very interesting – I will soon.
I just came to know that this book has been made into a movie! I should watch it – it would be fun to see how similar it is to the way I imagined things and people to be while I read the book.
I didn’t know of nu shu before reading this book.
Oh, please do send me the list. Would love to check out the books. I am getting into historical fiction, slowly and gradually.